The wild things in life...

All I have to say is that some things that people can do and the strange living forms on this earth can really surprise and shock some...

If you wanted to break a world record, what would it be?

http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/weird/World_Record_Holders.html

And what did you think was the weirdest animal you ever seen was prior to seeing this? LOL

http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/weird/Freaks-of-Nature-52528842.html

And if you could send in one "top photo" that means a lot to you, what would it be?

http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/archive/Top_Photos.html

I think I like to wonder stuff.

:-)

My wee bit of second hand advice...

Lately (I wonder why lol) there has been such strong waves of "negativity" flying around people that I care about and I sit back always and kinda laugh because I really find it to be dumb. But I found another article from one of my favorite websites and thought I would share with everyone, even those that think they got it all "figured out." I call it second hand advice because I read it awhile back and been using it in my own life as much as possible that I figured I would share with everyone, no matter what kind of background you have, no matter where you are in life and no matter how old you are...there is ALWAYS room for improvement, especially in relationships with people you feel like you care about.

This is kind of my way of "mentoring" you...lol


How To Deal With Negative Peopleby Catherine Pratt www.Life-With-Confidence.com

Negative people. They're like human black holes which suddenly come out of nowhere and just suck the life out of you. You try to stay positive and remain strong but their negativity ends up just completely draining you, you feel exhausted, and you may also start to feel depressed too.

So what can you do? One of the first things to do is to be aware of who the negative people are in your life. This may not be as easy as you first think.
Some very nice people are as Judy Orloff says in her book, "Positive Energy" are really energy vampires. Here's some of the signs she says to look for:

"- you experience a sense of being demeaned, constricted or attacked.
- you intuitively feel unsafe, tense or on guard.- you sense prickly, off-putting vibes. You can't wait to get away from them.
- your energy starts to fizzle. You may feel beleaguered or ill."
She also refers to them by the following names which you might recognize: the sob sister, the blamer, the drama queen, the constant talker or joke teller, and the fixer-upper (requires endless help).

Also, pay attention to what the person talks about. Is it always about how bad things are? Do they just complain and never actually do anything about what's upsetting them?
Once you have a good idea on how to recognize them then you can actually work on protecting yourself from them. Here's some strategies on how to deal with negative people:

1. Where’s it coming from? Do you understand why this person is so negative? Is it because they hate their job, feel frustrated, feel trapped in their life or do they lack in self esteem so the only way they can feel powerful is by hurting others? If you can understand where it’s coming from, it’s much easier to deal with. Some people seem to think that the only way they can get what they want is to be manipulative. Remember the saying, "the squeaky wheel gets the oil." They believe this and think that if they don't whine and complain that they won't be heard and that this is the only way to get what they want.
Remember that the negative behaviour is a reflection of them. It tells you what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with. It's not a reflection of who you are.

(I like to call this one the Congenial effect lol)
2. Just smile and remain completely detached Whenever the negative tirade starts just smile and don’t say anything. Remain completely detached from it and don’t get involved in it. Leave the room if you can. The negative person is simply seeking to get a reaction from you. That’s what they feed on. Don't let them catch you in their web of negativity because as soon as you do, that’s when they start draining your energy.
It's the emotions that these negative people stir up in you that you need to learn to distance yourself from. Try just observing the whole scene. Say to yourself, "what a shame this person is so unhappy. Maybe some of my positive energy will rub off on her. If not, her unhappiness has nothing to do with me." This isn't always an easy thing to do but definitely a powerful technique. In order to get the full benefit from it, you need to make sure that you're aware of what's going on around you. It's easy to slip into auto-pilot and not realize until later how drained you feel. You need to detach yourself from the event while it's happening and just observe it.
This works well for family members who you don’t really have a choice as to whether they’re in your life or not.

3. Say, “Now tell me something positive.” Right after they've finished telling you some tragic story, say to them, "now tell me a positive story". Some people have no idea how negative they’ve become. That's what they're surrounded by day in and day out so it’s just become a way of life for them. By being given the reminder, they may actually realize that being negative isn't the kind of person they want to be and may start to work on becoming more positive. Or, they may decide it's not worth telling you their horror stories because you'll ask them to think of something positive. Sob sisters (always whining, feel the world is against them, feel they're victims) will probably not find you very attractive anymore.

4. Imagine a bright white light surrounding you Yes, this sounds silly but if you can do it, it’s amazing how much of a difference it can make. You'll feel that their negativity can’t touch you because you now have a force field protecting you.
I used to have a really nasty manager who would constantly try to make me feel like an idiot. When I had a shower in the morning, I would imagine that I was being covered with a protective oil so that any of her comments would just slide right off me. I also put up a post it note on my computer that said, “Oiyli” which stood for “Only if you let it”. It reminded me that her comments could only hurt me if I let them. If was my choice as to how to react to her.

5. Is it a sign? I find that the “universe” uses negative people as the way to get me to move on whenever I’m getting comfortable in a situation that isn’t challenging me anymore. It’s like a prod that I should be focusing more on following my dream rather than just getting caught up in a nice, comfortable routine that isn’t getting me anywhere. If I didn’t have these people, then I would probably just stay. So, sometimes I'm really grateful to these people because they're giving me the "kick" that I need.

6. What does it say about you? Negative people want to get a reaction out of you. And the only way they can is if they hit on one your "buttons" or something that causes intense feelings for you. For example they may bring out past feelings of guilt or anger or make you feel like you're being rejected or that you're not good enough.
So, if there's one particular person who drains you the most, ask yourself why is it affecting you so much? Sometimes, you can learn a lot about yourself by analysing what feelings it's bringing up within you. Once you figure it out and deal with it then you'll find that the energy draining person simply has no power over you anymore.

7. Trying to feel needed Is listening to the complaints of the negative person your way of feeling valued? Does it make you feel needed? If it does, then you need to start valuing yourself more and you’ll find that this just won't happen anymore. Be selective about who and how you help others. Just listening to negative tales over and over helps neither of you.
A good test to see if this is happening is to notice how you feel after "helping" someone. If you feel drained or tired or annoyed or frustrated then all you've done is given over your own energy to them. This isn't beneficial to you at all, and rarely does it help them in the long run.

8. It’s not your fault You may be feeling that you have to solve the problems of the energy drainer. You’re not responsible for the person’s life nor their negativity. You don’t have to feel guilty for them being unhappy. Let go of trying to fix or help them. That's not what they want anyway. They want your energy and so you have to be strong and not give in to them.
A suggestion by Judy Orloff for dealing with draining co-workers is to keep mentioning to the person that you have work to do and you can only listen to them for a minute. If after a few minutes, the person is still going on about the same thing then either change the conversation or politely but firmly end the conversation.
It's important to be able to let go of the idea that you owe everyone a solution. With some people you just have to let them go. They have to take responsibility for their own lives and they won't if someone is always there to fix everything for them. So, Let Go! It sounds mean but it definitely doesn't help them if they end up taking you down with them. In that case, then neither one of you is benefitting.

9. Be enthusiastic and focus on your own energy If you can be higher energy than they are then your energy will most likely start to rub off on those around you instead of the other way around. Also, the less you pay attention to them, the less they'll affect you.

In Summary
"Energy Vampires" are going to appear in and out of your life. The trick is to learn how to deal with them before they appear. If you don't then they truly will suck all your energy right out of you without you even realizing it. They will also be having a huge effect on your life and whether you're able to achieve your dreams and goals. Learn how to deal with negative people so that as Judy Orloff says you can, "be confident that no one can drain you if you don't cooperate". Your life will just instantly improve.

Dealing With Negative People Case Studies - Blamers Now, that you've got the basics down, let's take a look at three actual examples of dealing with a very specific type of negative person. These negative people always blame someone else for whatever happens. They are always completely blameless. They are incredibly draining and frustrating to deal with. They also usually end up making you feel horrible about yourself. Dealing with this type of person is much different than dealing with your average negative person. It requires much different techniques as well.
In the first case study, I give a more detailed look at this type of negative person which I call a "blamer". They're always criticizing, micromanaging and making you feel like you're always to blame and it's always your fault. They cause terrible guilt, anxiety, and depression in you as well. You'll get a good understanding of this personality type and how you should respond.

Always to Blame, Always My Fault
In the second case study, we're going to look at a negative person who's caught doing something wrong (someone who takes credit for your work) and you call them on it. They respond by viciously attacking back.

Dealing With A Negative Person Who Takes Credit For Your Work
And, lastly, let's take a look at the situation where a blamer makes negative comments about others to you. This can cause a lot of emotional distress to you because you may feel guilty for not saying anything to defend the person being criticized yet if you do say something, quite likely you'll trigger an attack against you (put you down, blame you, or even give you the cold shoulder).

What To Do When A Blamer Makes Negative Comments About Others
Note:If you'd like to read all 3 of these case studies in pdf format so you can easily print them off, you can click on the following link:Dealing With Blamers - 3 Case Studies
Need Some Additional Ideas On How To Deal With Negative People? 65 Positive Ways To Deal With Negative PeopleThe above list is just a bare bones summary. If you want to discover the secrets to dealing with any negative person then you need, "65 Positive Ways To Deal With Negative People". It's a much more detailed and comprehensive guide on how to deal with all the negative people you come across throughout your day.

Blamers If you're dealing with an extremely draining negative person who always makes you feel like you can't do anything right, that you're incompetent and that you'll just never be good enough, then you may be dealing with what I call a Blamer. You can read the case studies above to get a really good idea of what I'm referring to but if you are dealing with this type of book, then my book called, "Blamers" will literally change your life. You'll suddenly see that it's not you at all. It's how this person you're in a relationship with (your mate, your boss, your friend, your family member, etc.) views the world and a it's very different perspective from the rest of us. You'll discover that it's the relationship that's wrong not you. You'll also learn the best way to handle this person but also what you should never do with this person.

What a blessing...

Sometimes I find myself getting frustrated over nothing. I mean its really ridiculous. I stress myself out for things that don't need it. I get very emotional over the smallest things. I get upset, angry, hateful towards people; some that probably deserve it and some that don't.

I reflect a lot. I mean A WHOLE LOT. Its kind of like I act, say or do things without always thinking it through. Most of the time I'm content with the decisions I make and other times, I sit and wonder...hmm was that the right thing? I thought about it and I really question myself way too much. I feel like I apologize so much for the things I feel or have an opinion about. Why is it that I have to feel sorry for that? Sometimes I offend people, but those are not my intentions I just say what I think most of the time either through words, facial expressions or emotion.

There are so many things that I am thankful for though. The Lord has truly blessed me. He is so good to me. He has provided for me the people, the shelter, the opportunities and the materials I need to live a happy life. I know I am going somewhere HUGE. I am going to be the success I dream about everyday with His guidance. Sometimes I find myself just smiling because I really should not complain at all. I have no reason to be upset, angry, frustrated, etc. Not many people know what my plans are, but my ultimate goal is to be financially free and I mean, SOON. Like sooner than most people would think. Why? Of course I want to not have to ever worry about the stability of my family or anyone who needs my help. I want to spend everyday with the ones I love and not be constrained by work or other obligations. I want to go to church every Sunday because I actually have no time commitment to something else. I want to have no excuse not to pray some nights. I want to travel and not just for my own pleasure, but I want to see the world. I have been within these walls of this country for all my life...reading and hearing about the sadness of the world. I want to help. I know I am not a doctor or anything. And sure I can donate a bunch of money and hopefully it gets to some children dying in another part of the world...but I want to actually go and make a REAL difference. God has big plans for me, but not just so I can enjoy them fruitfully and selfishly. I have a real calling. This may sound dumb to you or whatever, but I have a real relationship with the Lord and I know its true. I want a one-to-one interaction with the needy, the helpless, the sick, the dying, the suffering...I want to touch peoples lives.

I want to serve God in the way that he has served me. What a blessing it is to be His child.

"God indeed is my savior; I am confident and unafraid. My strength and my courage is the Lord, and He has been my savior: (Isaiah 12:2 NAB)

Good Stuff Right Here: Unhealthy Friendships.

http://www.life-with-confidence.com/unhealthy-friendships.html

definitely worth taking a reader.

my personal favorite is #7.

:-) *ahhh relief*

A Wish of Success for you

Today you have gone.
Not because you want to leave me here, but because you are out to have set what you have to do, which happens to be far away from here.
I truly believe in you.
I believe in your ambition.
I believe in your dreams.
I believe in you.
I also believe in us.
I believe we can stay strong.
I believe we will keep this love alive.
I believe in your happiness.
I believe that you are happy when you are gaining success and power.
I believe that you are happy when you are with me.
I know we are happy together.
We have made it this far knowing so much about each other.
I can't wait to see you again.
I can't wait to laugh with you again.
I can't wait to cry with you again.
I can't wait for everything to be in its proper place.
I can't wait for our adventures.
I can't wait for us to see each other again.
I wish only the best for you.
I wish the greatest success for you.
I wish the greatest success for me.
I wish the greatest success for the both of us.
I am going to miss you everyday.
I am going to miss your encouragement.
I am going to miss you.
I really do believe in you.
I really do love you.